sometimes i wonder why it is God created us with this need for other people.
and even more specifically, why is it that we often feel like we need that one other person?
but for some of us, there may never be another person?
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
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my buddy and I have been chatting about this question too! One of the deacons from mars hill gave me this little booklet called Understanding Who You Are by Dr. Larry Crabb that totally nails that question.
ReplyDeleteThe booklet talks about how we long to share something beautiful in us with someone else, how that plays out, and how the gospel answers that. it's so deep, it's like getting knifed with the gospel haha
there are, alternately, anthropological explanations as to why this is, but i'm not well-versed enough in anthropological scholarship to write regarding them, unfortunately, ha. (:
ReplyDeletei don't know if we've talked about this, but i've become so 'cynical' (? it's like an apathetic/default-like cynicism) that i've adopted the motto "i'm not for everyone." i honestly feel now that i am so incompatible with so much of the population that whoever it is who's going to do it for me had better well be obvious, lol.
(why, in part -- because it's not just romance; it's companionship -- it's loyalty, dedication, and a deep and unchanging, dependable friendship. that's why all other friends won't do (also, it'd be awkward to make out with "all other friends! ;).)
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I agree. But I feel it's more 'not everyone is for me,' haha (sorry if that sounds really snotty?). I think I get along with a good amount of people and could feign a relationship easily but I just won't be happy.
ReplyDeleteAnd I think I've become incredibly non-committal.
lol, it's true; that's my motto, too -- i just insist on using the first one so as not to sound so snotty. ;) jk!
ReplyDeletefun fact: i joined eharmony free for four days; did i tell you that on gchat? it didn't come to anything, unfortunately, as the guys refused to respond quickly enough to take advantage of free communication weekend.... but i am facebook friends with one of them, who asked me if i wanted to get dinner sometime. i know it's not going to amount to anything but i feel obligated to try anyway. sigh.
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Ha, interesting! My mom & I were discussing eHarmony recently.
ReplyDeleteOne of my best friends is on those match sites too & she's met some guys that fit her pretty well...and she too thought that nothing would amount from her most recent exchange but she felt obligated to meet him IRL (a "why not" kind of attitude) and so far things seem to be pretty good...
hmm, interesting. we shall discuss further! (:
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